Should children attend a fostering information event?

Whether children attend a fostering information event should be agreed with the fostering service before you book or attend. An event is usually designed for adults who are exploring fostering, so children may not need to be present for the full session. The most suitable arrangement will depend on the event format, the information being discussed and how your family can take part comfortably.

Involving children can help them understand why fostering is being considered and give them an opportunity to ask questions in a supported setting. This can be particularly useful where fostering would affect bedrooms, household routines, privacy, pets, holidays or the time adults can spend with existing children. Their views are relevant, although children should not be expected to make the decision or feel responsible for whether an application proceeds.

Before attending, ask the fostering service:

• Whether children are invited to the event or whether it is intended for adults only.
• Whether the session includes a separate activity or explanation for children.
• How long the event lasts and whether children can attend for only part of it.
• What subjects will be covered, including children’s needs, behaviour, contact with birth families and changes to family life.
• Whether there is another way for children to learn about fostering and share their views.

Children who attend should be given a simple explanation beforehand. Explain that fostering means welcoming a child or young person into the family home for a period of time, and that fostered children may have experienced difficult circumstances. Avoid presenting fostering as an opportunity to gain a brother or sister permanently, because placements can end and each child’s arrangements are different.

It is also sensible to explain that the event is an information-gathering stage, not a commitment to foster. Children can be told that adults will ask questions, receive training and consider whether fostering is right for the whole household before any decision is made. This helps prevent them feeling that attendance means the family has already agreed to proceed.

Some children may find a formal discussion tiring or confusing, particularly if unfamiliar terms are used. If they attend, allow time for breaks and give them an easy way to say when they need help or want to leave the room. A trusted adult should be available to explain information afterwards rather than expecting children to follow every part of the session.

Fostering services will need to understand how everyone in the household feels during the assessment process. Children’s views may therefore be explored separately at a later stage, in a way that is appropriate to their communication needs. This gives them space to speak honestly without having to respond in front of the whole family or feel pressured to agree with adults.

If children do not attend the event, involve them afterwards. Share the relevant information in language they understand, invite questions and talk through practical issues such as sharing space, belongings, routines and attention. You can then ask the fostering service how your children’s views will be included in the next stages.

Attendance is therefore a family decision to discuss with the fostering service, rather than a test of commitment. The important point is that children have suitable opportunities to understand the proposal, express their views and receive clear support throughout the fostering assessment.